love and rmance quats

1. “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
   —Alfred Lord Tennyson

Everyone who has suffered from a broken heart at any time has heard this quote. Unfortunately it does not give comfort at the beginning, only years later will you realize its profoundness and value. When you understand its true meaning, then you’ll know that you’ve overcome your break up or divorce. It is one of my favorite break up quotes.

2. “If you really love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours, if not it wasn’t meant to be.”
   —unknown

I heard this the first time in the movie Indecent Proposal. It illustrates the necessity of detachment, of “letting go” after a break up. If you can let go, you will receive.

3. “You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”
   —unknown

There is no moving on without forgiveness, and more importantly: there is no new beginning while carrying “old emotional baggage”.

4. “Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.”
   —Golda Meir

Experiencing the negative emotions is part of life. Only if we are able to go through them with our full consciousness can we also appreciate and benefit from the positive ones.

5. “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”
   —unknown

Sometimes relationships can’t be fixed. That is when it’s better to move on. Sad, but very often true.

6. “Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.”
   —unknown

Only when you are able to completely detach yourself, can you be free. After a break up, and elsewhere in life. Be a leaf floating in a river, not knowing where it might take you. This is true freedom.

7. “The loss of love is not nearly as painful as our resistance to accepting it is.”
   —Tigress Luv

Acceptance is one important step in healing from a break up. This is part of the painful first phase.

8. “I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile.”
   —Lone Star

This is actually some great break up advice in two ways: first you are not being needy in front of your Ex, you demonstrate strength and your Ex may wonder if s/he has made the right decision. Also, constant smiling despite the fact that you feel terrible is a great way “to trick” your mind. By smiling, the body sends signals to the mind that you are happy, even if you are not. Eventually the mind WILL accept the state of the body. This is simple neuro-linguistic programming.

9. “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
   —M. Kathleen Casey

This is a great one. It means that you have the choice to accept the pain and not allow it to turn into suffering. One of the main reasons that mental pain turns into suffering is continual mental reasoning. We can break that vicious cycle by learning to control our thoughts.

10. “I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.”
    —unknown

It is a great accomplishment to realize that we loved a concept, a picture we had in our minds, rather than the person himself. When we break up, it’s this concept we miss, and what causes the pain is the failure of the same.